Teach it. While research suggests that people have a natural tendency to be fair, there are also lots of experiences (and cultural messages) that encourage kids to think only of themselves. There are a number of qualities that underlie a sense of Honor. Define honor. Honorable people treat others fairly. Fair, just, equitable, right, good sport; these are a few …
Fostering Character Development in Teens: Honor, Pt 1
def: (noun) fair and respects the rights of others One of the primary ways that societies regulate the behavior of their fellow citizens has been through an emphasis on honor; upholding it, defending it, living with it. In many considerations, honor represents the whole collection of Character-istics, similar to Character and integrity. However, in this column, honor represents a specific …
Family Holiday Survival Guide
While making plans to spend time with extended family over the upcoming holiday, I was reminded of a book I ran across some time ago by Laurence Gonzales (Deep Survival, 2005) about surviving in a familiar but unforgiving and hostile environment. Gonzales interviewed survivors, gathered information on people who perished, and reviewed research on the psychology of survival. He then …
Fostering Character Development in Teens: Honesty, pt 2
Teach it (i.e., give direct moral instruction). There are a number of component skills that are a part of being an honest person. Kids need to know how to give an honest opinion. They can also benefit from learning how to be diplomatic about speaking honestly. Honest people also need to know how to set limits on what they are …
Fostering Character Development in Teens: Honesty, pt 1
def. (noun) sincere, frank, genuine, truthful In addition to learning how to behave appropriately in different social situations, establish a foundation for future employment, and develop meaningful close relationships, teens also need to create a foundation of universal moral principles to guide decision making throughout their lives. Honesty is one of these fundamental values. Honest people are sincere, frank, genuine, …
Fostering Character Development in Teens: Generosity (cont.)
Teach it. Generosity needs to be taught. There are a number of skills that lead to generosity. Manners are an important form of generosity. Good manners are about being considerate, patient, tolerant and generous. Opening doors for others, giving up your seat to someone older or physically challenged, waiting for everyone to be served before beginning to eat and politeness …
Fostering Character Development in Teens: Generosity
def. (noun) Liberal in giving and sharing Generosity is about giving when you don’t have to; of yourself and of your possessions. It is sharing; giving some of what you have to those who are without, in need or wanting. It can mean giving money for the poor but it can also mean offering candy to your brother or sister. …
Fostering Character Development in Teens: Courage, pt 2
Notice it. What you characterize as courageous is important. Who you consider to be heroic is important. Again, while heroism is the easiest to spot it is the least relevant to helping your kid be courageous in their everyday life. Heroism is rare by definition. Courage is all around you. It is on the news. It is in your house. …
Fostering Character Development in Teens: Courage, part 1
def: (noun) continues to pursue what is right regardless of threat, difficulty, danger, or pain Courage is one of the more dramatic Character-istics. One form, heroism, is immediately recognized by others. These are the instances of rescue and protection and sacrifice that rise above the normal events of our lives. While heroism is admirable, it is not achievable by most …
Fostering Character Development in Teens: Compassion, pt 2
Expect it. It is important to let your kid know that you expect them to be compassionate in word and deed. When you notice a situation that calls for compassion, give your kid a nudge. Help them see how they could show compassion. When you can anticipate the need for compassion, let your kid know what you will be expecting …