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When Your Teen Tells You They Are Ready To Have Sex

In The Blog by Dr James Wellborn

Kids begin to be sexually active in significant numbers beginning at 15 (Guttmacher Institute). The average age American adolescents lose their virginity is 17.  By 18, 61% of kids have had sex.  Where are kids getting information about when, where and how to have sex?  Unfortunately, it is from the internet, advertisements, performers, celebutants, pornography and the music they listen …

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Sexting Part 5-What to Say If Your Kid Has Been Sexting (continued)

In There's a Stranger in My House by Dr James Wellborn

Talk about the risks.  Here’s the list. Sending pictures of yourself when you are younger than 18 is distributing pornography.  Having a picture of yourself stored on a phone, computer, etc. (or recoverable from the secret, undeleted areas of things you have deleted on your device) is possession of child pornography.  Having pictures of your sext buddy who is under …

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Sexting Part 3-Warning Signs

In There's a Stranger in My House by Dr James Wellborn

This article is the third in a series on how parents can address the issue of sexting with their teenage children.  The first part of this series emphasized the importance of educating yourself as a parent and talking to your kids about sexting as well as internet and social media issues.  Part 2 reviewed some of the ground rules to …

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Raising Independent Kids

In The Blog by Dr James Wellborn

One goal of parenting is to raise independent and self-sufficient kids.  When parents talk about having independent kids it really means having their kids be able to support themselves, make good decisions and deal with challenges.  You can’t be independent if you have to rely on others for money, get yourself arrested (or thrown out of your apartment) or are …

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Sexting Part 1-Having the Talk

In There's a Stranger in My House by Dr James Wellborn

There is a perfect storm that has arisen around teenagers and sex: the internet, technology, the sexualization of our culture, stupid teenagers (and politicians and professional athletes and . . .), the rise of Romance and the ability to be anonymous (or at least avoid direct, face to face contact) when interacting with other people.  All this has conspired to …

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Ikigai

In There's a Stranger in My House by Dr James Wellborn

We live in a society where experiences are served up pre-determined, pre-selected, pre-processed, pre-digested, pre-programmed, pre-packaged and pre-scheduled.  While convenient, there are a few problems this can present for your kid.  They can forget or never learn how to recognize authentic personal interests.  They begin to wait passively for experiences to be presented.  They consider temporary excitement and surprise to …

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Developmental Stages of Access to Social Media Grades 11-12, Part I

In There's a Stranger in My House by Dr James Wellborn

Well, we’ve come to the final developmental stage in this series on access to and use of social media and the internet.  Much of the heavy lifting in parenting should have been occurring in the years before your teenager reaches the 11th and 12th grade.  By staying on top of things, building in important values, requiring self-restraint and repeatedly addressing …

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Developmental Stages of Access to Social Media Grades 9-10, Part III

In There's a Stranger in My House by Dr James Wellborn

This column continues the series about setting limits on your kid’s access to and use of social media and the internet.  The topic for this column is video games and social media accounts.  It is the third part of the expectations and recommendations for kids in grades 9 and 10.  (If strategies or information have been covered in previous columns …