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Cigarettes, Tobacco, E-cigarettes and Vaping

In There's a Stranger in My House by Dr James Wellborn

Everyone knows smoking is bad.  It is highly addictive and has a whole host of health and mortality problems (all of which make you dead sooner).  And it is even worse than has been previously thought.  Even teenagers know it (with the help of longstanding and coordinated campaigns by the US Government and the American Cancer Society to educate and …

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Helping Your Kid Comfort A Grieving Friend

In There's a Stranger in My House by Dr James Wellborn

Teenager’s, as we all know, think they are invincible.  Most of them also have a hard time making sense of events and situations that require a perspective greater than “what am I doing this weekend.”  This makes supporting a friend who has suffered a death in the family particularly difficult (“What do I say — and what do I NOT …

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Hiding Phone Apps In Plain Sight

In The Blog by Dr James Wellborn

Giving your teen their own smart phone is a privilege and responsibility.  It will include setting some limits on acceptable uses for the phone and any other devices that connect to the internet or wifi. Once again the speed of technological advances (driven by the availability of teen’s disposable income to buy relatively inexpensive apps for their phone) has complicated …

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The Study Clause

In There's a Stranger in My House by Dr James Wellborn

What do you do if your kid doesn’t follow through when it comes to keeping his or her grades up? If you were my mom, you would bring “Mr. Spoon” to the conversation (a large, thick wooden spoon that could be very convincing). I am more likely to recommend that parents have an understanding with their kids, a study clause, …

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Grade Expectations

In There's a Stranger in My House by Dr James Wellborn

Well, school is now in full swing and soon the first progress report will be making its way to emails near you. For some, this means being faced with setting (or revising) some expectations about grades and studying. Hopefully, you have one of those conscientious kids who love schoolwork and see grades as a challenge to be mastered. In that …

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How To Get Your Teenage Boy To Open Up

In The Blog by Dr James Wellborn

Everybody knows boys are just not talkers. Boys brains are wired differently when it comes to language and emotion. Boys are doers not thinkers. Boys are naturally better at math and visual spatial tasks. Well. Actually, these “facts” are myths. Most differences between boys and girls appear to be more about how they are raised than how they were born. …

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Emotional Intimacy: Some Things Your Son Needs To Know

In The Blog by Dr James Wellborn

There are a lot of ways teenagers can learn about healthy romantic relationships. Most media representations are focused on titillation and sexual licentiousness. Romance in movies is mostly characterized by idealization, infatuation, lust and one dimensional people (think Twilight, The Hangover, Iron Man, Spider man and 300). Relationships in music lyrics emphasize hedonism, sexism, the objectification of women (and men) …

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Parenting Teens for the 21st Century Work Place: Achoring Skills

In There's a Stranger in My House by Dr James Wellborn

Twenty first century workers will have to contend with the reality that there are smart, accomplished people all over the world that can transmit their knowledge instantly anywhere in the world. While your kid will need to have a solid intellectual foundation, they will also need skill sets that can’t be outsourced to workers other countries; skills that can only …