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Family Time Movie Theater: Healthy Realistic Relationships

In The Blog by Dr James Wellborn

Good luck finding movies that portray healthy, long term relationships.  Everything is drama and dysfunction or drama and romance.  These are a couple of movies that actually portray relationships in a fairly accurate and healthy way.  Because they are not romcoms (i.e., romantic comedies) or filled with violence, your kid might not watch them by choice.  You may have to …

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Family Time Movie Theater: Internet and Social Media

In The Blog by Dr James Wellborn

You can use movie night to reveal the influence of the internet on teen’s (and all of our) lives.  Here are a couple of documentaries that will raise some issues worth talking about.  One is a cautionary tale about how you can be fooled and another is about how the internet and social media can be used to make a …

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Family Time Movie Theater: Teenage Boys and Dating

In The Blog by Dr James Wellborn

Finding good movie role models for teenage boys in dating relationships is not easy.  There is so much emphasis on the strict adherence to guy rules (which are bad for emotionally intimate relationships), the overly romanticized characterizations of boys and girls who don’t expect much from their boyfriends.  Here are some movies with better guy role models. Pretty in Pink …

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Emotional Intimacy: Some Things Your Son Needs To Know

In The Blog by Dr James Wellborn

There are a lot of ways teenagers can learn about healthy romantic relationships. Most media representations are focused on titillation and sexual licentiousness. Romance in movies is mostly characterized by idealization, infatuation, lust and one dimensional people (think Twilight, The Hangover, Iron Man, Spider man and 300). Relationships in music lyrics emphasize hedonism, sexism, the objectification of women (and men) …

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When Your Teen Tells You They Are Ready To Have Sex

In The Blog by Dr James Wellborn

Kids begin to be sexually active in significant numbers beginning at 15 (Guttmacher Institute). The average age American adolescents lose their virginity is 17.  By 18, 61% of kids have had sex.  Where are kids getting information about when, where and how to have sex?  Unfortunately, it is from the internet, advertisements, performers, celebutants, pornography and the music they listen …

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Sexting Part 5-What to Say If Your Kid Has Been Sexting (continued)

In There's a Stranger in My House by Dr James Wellborn

Talk about the risks.  Here’s the list. Sending pictures of yourself when you are younger than 18 is distributing pornography.  Having a picture of yourself stored on a phone, computer, etc. (or recoverable from the secret, undeleted areas of things you have deleted on your device) is possession of child pornography.  Having pictures of your sext buddy who is under …

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Sexting Part 2-Setting the Ground Rules

In There's a Stranger in My House by Dr James Wellborn

This article is the second in a series on how parents can address the issue of sexting with their teenage children.  The first part of this series emphasized the importance of educating yourself as a parent and talking to your kids about sexting as well as internet and social media issues. Set the ground rules.  Once you have talked to …

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Sexting Part 1-Having the Talk

In There's a Stranger in My House by Dr James Wellborn

There is a perfect storm that has arisen around teenagers and sex: the internet, technology, the sexualization of our culture, stupid teenagers (and politicians and professional athletes and . . .), the rise of Romance and the ability to be anonymous (or at least avoid direct, face to face contact) when interacting with other people.  All this has conspired to …